If you’re like most men, you probably enjoy going to bars and night clubs to meet women. It can be a lot of fun, but it can also be a bit daunting if you don’t know what you’re doing.
In this blog post, we will give you 7 tips for picking up women at bars and night clubs. We’ll cover everything from how to have attractive body language to how to get a woman to come back to your place at the end of the night. So whether you’re just getting started or you’re looking for some additional tips, keep reading!
1. Have attractive body language
Most people know that body language is important when it comes to picking up women. But many don’t know how to use it effectively.
Here are a few guidelines:
- Stand up straight and keep your shoulders back. This will make you look more confident and dominant.
- Make eye contact with the women you’re interested in. This shows that you’re confident and interested in her.
- Smile often. This makes you appear friendly and approachable.
- Don’t fidget or play with your hair. This makes you look nervous and insecure.
- Keep your hands to yourself. Don’t touch her without her permission, as this can make her feel uncomfortable.
- These are just a few tips on how to use body language to pick up women. If you want to learn more, there are plenty of resources in particular I recommend Stealth Attraction which is a video training program all about how to pick up our hot chicks in clubs.
2. Approach women who are alone or with a small group of friends
Approaching women who are alone or in a small group is ideal because it gives you the opportunity to have a one-on-one conversation. If she’s with a friend, you can include them in the conversation and get to know all of them. But if she’s alone, you can really focus on getting to know her and making a connection.
Start with a simple compliment or question about something she’s wearing. If she seems interested in talking, take the conversation further by asking her questions about herself. The key is to be genuine and interested in what she has to say. If you can make a woman laugh, that’s always a good sign.
On a related note, one of the most common mistake that men make when approaching women is to do it with a large group of friends. This can be awkward and intimidating, and will probably only get you rejected.
3. Get the woman’s attention before you start talking to her
The worst thing you could do is try to approach a woman while she has her back turned on you. It’s best if the woman knows what you are doing and can see your face. This will give her the chance to assess you and decide if she’s interested.
So make sure you get her attention first before anything else.
One of the best ways to do this is to make eye contact with her. If she’s looking at you, that’s a good sign that she’s interested. Another way to get her attention is to tap her on the shoulder and say “excuse me” before you start talking to her.
Once you have her attention, the next step is to introduce yourself and start a conversation.
4. Be yourself and don’t try too hard to impress her
It’s better to be honest than to try and impress her, because if she sees through your game, she won’t be interested. Just relax, be yourself, and let the conversation flow naturally.
This is particularly important if you are an older guy trying to pick up on a younger woman. As an older guy you already have a lot of status in a young woman’s eyes, so if she thinks you are trying to impress her that can really weird her out. If this is your situation your best bet is to go after younger women who are especially interested in older men specifically! Yes, they are out there, you can read more about how to spot these young women in this review of Bill Grant’s Ageless program.
5. Use humor and flattery sparingly
Humor and flattery can be great tools for getting what you want, but they can also be dangerous weapons in the hands of a skilled manipulator.
Used sparingly, humor and flattery can make you more likeable and persuasive, but if you overuse them, you’ll just seem insincere and slimy.
Remember, the goal is to get what you want without making the other person feel uncomfortable or manipulated. If you can do that, you’re well on your way to becoming a master manipulator!
Hahahahahahaha! But seriously, these are powerful tools, so be sure to use them with only the purest of intentions.
6. Don’t spend the whole night talking to her
When you meet a woman that you’re interested in you may feel tempted to spend the entire night gabbing away. However in many instances you are better off just giving her a taste of who you are, and what you are about, and then exchanging contact information with her, before going about your business.
This way you don’t come across as some desperate dude with no life who has nothing else to do but talk to her. It also creates a little bit of mystery as she will say “I wonder where he’s going I wonder if he’s going to call me”, and so forth.
The only caveat is in situations where it seems like she’s REALLY into you, and you are getting the impression that she might like to come home with you for some hanky-panky. In those cases, then sure, hang out with her for a bit and see if she feels like stopping by your place for a nightcap.
7. Ask for her phone number or invite her back to your place at the end of the night
As we just discussed, this is the final step to picking up on a chick at your local watering hole or night club. You need to be clear on what your goal is and then work towards that goal rather than simply flying blind.
So assuming that you hit it off with the young lady you are talking to, be sure to follow through so that you can move things forward.
There is absolutely no reason to be shy about asking for what you want, so be sure to communicate this to her. Let her know that you’d like to either get her phone number so you can make plans at a later time, or see if she feels like adjourning to a more comfortable venue such as your place or hers…
From there, just remember to continue being a gentleman and hopefully you will have a new female companion who will bring a great deal of happiness and love into your life.
Hopefully these tips will help you the next time you’re out trying to meet women. Remember, the most important thing is to just have fun and be yourself. If you do that, you’re sure to meet someone special. Good luck!